{"id":209428,"date":"2023-08-24T04:06:42","date_gmt":"2023-08-24T08:06:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/?p=209428"},"modified":"2023-08-24T04:06:44","modified_gmt":"2023-08-24T08:06:44","slug":"three-notes-on-sexuality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality","title":{"rendered":"Three notes on sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Nor boyfriend, let’s be clear<\/strong> on that<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Puebla, about fifteen years ago (around 2010).
A good friend told me part of a conversation she had had a few days earlier with one of her six-year-old nephews.
The nephew started telling her about a classmate’s girlfriend, about the same age as him.
My friend tries to correct him:
-She will not be his girlfriend, but a friend.
The nephew insists:
-No, aunt, it’s his girlfriend.
He remains silent for two or three seconds and adds:
-But don’t worry, I don’t have a girlfriend.
He thinks for another few moments and concludes:
-No boyfriend either, hey!
At the age of six, about fifteen years ago, her nephew assured her that he had no girlfriend or boyfriend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Love and sexuality<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

At the conclusion of the anecdote, my friend asked me:
-Tom\u00e1s, could it be that we talk to our children too much about sex?
I answered that our children and nieces and nephews, from a very early age, know a lot of things about sex that we don’t know.
And I added that most probably the only thing they do not know, because no one has told them, is what really and decisively matters:
\u25cf That sexuality is a wonderful means in the service of love.
They probably ignore the only important thing: the intimate relationship between sexuality and love.
Only three were correct. After some thought, my friend confirmed my opinion with another anecdote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few months earlier, in a “well-educated” school, some 300 students between the ages of 13 and 16 were given a kind of survey.
One of the items asked them to relate “sex” to one of the six options offered, which included the word “love”<\/strong>.
Only three students made the connection between love and sex!
Among 300 “well-educated” 13- to 16-year-olds, only three associated sexuality with love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex… and love?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We commented that this should not be surprising.
The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love: neither those that we “receive” without looking for them in the street, nor those given to us by the media, nor those that populate the Internet, that “sneak in” – even unintentionally – into our cell phone…
Our “culture” offers sex, including in non-pornographic environments, as a fundamental means of obtaining pleasure, as emotional satisfaction… or in a thousand other ways, sometimes very degrading, that we are all more or less familiar with.
Contemporary culture tends to link sexuality to pleasure, emotional satisfaction or other realities that, in fact, have little to do with love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Participation in love and in the creative power of God<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the midst of all this misleading rumor, I consider it convenient to remind our readers what sexuality is<\/strong><\/em> in the background, highlighting this “is” with all the vigor and the rotundity that make possible my condition as a metaphysician.
If we overcome deceptive appearances and go to its innermost core, we will discover that sexuality is, first and foremost, a stupendous participation in the infinite Love and creative Power of God.
In that order, from our point of view:
\u25cf in His infinite Love;
\u25cf and in His creative Power.
Human sexuality constitutes a marvelous participation in the Love and creative power of God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A marvelous ingredient of human love<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Simultaneously, again in the background, sexuality is a great means to awaken, develop, consolidate, make grow, mature, rectify… the love between a man and a woman, precisely as such (male and female: sexed persons).
The verbs have been chosen with a certain arbitrariness. They could be replaced by other equivalent ones and many others could be added.
What should always be clear is that sexuality is “thought of” as an ineffable means to germinate, consolidate and strengthen the love between man and woman. Sexuality is a marvelous means at the service of sexual-sexual human love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

… and 3. It may be the former because it is the latter<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is perhaps the most relevant idea that I intend to communicate.
Human sexuality can be a participation in the infinite and creative Love of God (it is called to be) because it is capable of bringing forth, maintaining and increasing a current of exquisite love between a male and a female (it is called to do so).
The text and the context should “match”.
\u25cf The text with which the entry into this world of any human person is “written” is God’s infinite Love that “pours” over it and grants it a being called to endure for
all eternity as an interlocutor of divine Love.
\u25cf The context cannot but be a marvelous act of love, in which the male and female give themselves and receive fully all their capacity to love as sexed persons.
Sexuality constitutes a participation in the infinite Love and in the creative power of God “because” it is capable of establishing, consolidating and growing a wonderful relationship of love between one male and one female.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1102,"featured_media":208108,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"give_campaign_id":0,"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"mc4wp_mailchimp_campaign":[],"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"subtitle":"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.","format":"standard","video":"","gallery":"","source_name":"","source_url":"","via_name":"","via_url":"","override_template":"0","override":[{"template":"2","single_blog_custom":"","parallax":"1","fullscreen":"1","layout":"right-sidebar-narrow","sidebar":"default-sidebar","second_sidebar":"default-sidebar","sticky_sidebar":"1","share_position":"float","share_float_style":"share-normal","show_share_counter":"1","show_view_counter":"1","show_featured":"1","show_post_meta":"1","show_post_author":"1","show_post_author_image":"1","show_post_date":"1","post_date_format":"default","post_date_format_custom":"Y\/m\/d","show_post_category":"1","show_post_reading_time":"1","post_reading_time_wpm":"300","show_zoom_button":"0","zoom_button_out_step":"2","zoom_button_in_step":"3","show_post_tag":"1","show_prev_next_post":"0","show_popup_post":"0","number_popup_post":"1","show_author_box":"1","show_post_related":"0","show_inline_post_related":"0"}],"override_image_size":"0","image_override":[{"single_post_thumbnail_size":"crop-715","single_post_gallery_size":"crop-715"}],"trending_post":"0","trending_post_position":"meta","trending_post_label":"Trending","sponsored_post":"0","sponsored_post_label":"Sponsored by","sponsored_post_name":"","sponsored_post_url":"","sponsored_post_logo_enable":"0","sponsored_post_logo":"","sponsored_post_desc":"","disable_ad":"0"},"jnews_primary_category":{"id":"510","hide":""},"jnews_social_meta":{"fb_title":"","fb_description":"","fb_image":"","twitter_title":"","twitter_description":"","twitter_image":""},"jnews_override_counter":{"override_view_counter":"0","view_counter_number":"0","override_share_counter":"0","share_counter_number":"0","override_like_counter":"0","like_counter_number":"0","override_dislike_counter":"0","dislike_counter_number":"0"},"footnotes":""},"categories":[510],"tags":[28170,28169,28168],"class_list":["post-209428","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-family","tag-human-sexuality","tag-infinite-love","tag-love-and-sex"],"yoast_head":"\nThree notes on sexuality - IFN<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Three notes on sexuality\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"IFN\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/iFamNews\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TomasMelendo\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2023-08-24T08:06:42+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2023-08-24T08:06:44+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1200\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"675\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Tomas Melendo Granados\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@iFamNewsEN\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@iFamNewsEN\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Tomas Melendo Granados\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO Premium plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Three notes on sexuality - IFN","description":"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Three notes on sexuality","og_description":"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.","og_url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality","og_site_name":"IFN","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/iFamNews","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TomasMelendo","article_published_time":"2023-08-24T08:06:42+00:00","article_modified_time":"2023-08-24T08:06:44+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1200,"height":675,"url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png","type":"image\/png"}],"author":"Tomas Melendo Granados","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@iFamNewsEN","twitter_site":"@iFamNewsEN","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Tomas Melendo Granados","Est. reading time":"4 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"NewsArticle","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality"},"author":{"name":"Tomas Melendo Granados","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#\/schema\/person\/6a80884ea62cd6f678cb6e329b1d18d0"},"headline":"Three notes on sexuality","datePublished":"2023-08-24T08:06:42+00:00","dateModified":"2023-08-24T08:06:44+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality"},"wordCount":832,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png","keywords":["Human sexuality","Infinite love","Love and sex"],"articleSection":["Family"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality","url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality","name":"Three notes on sexuality - IFN","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png","datePublished":"2023-08-24T08:06:42+00:00","dateModified":"2023-08-24T08:06:44+00:00","description":"The messages that our society declares publicly about sexuality do not usually put it in relation to love.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/image-78.png","width":1200,"height":675},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/three-notes-on-sexuality#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Familia","item":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/es\/categoria\/familia"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"name":"Three notes on sexuality"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#website","url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/","name":"IFN","description":"International Family News Network","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#organization","name":"iFamNews","url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Share-logo.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Share-logo.png","width":200,"height":200,"caption":"iFamNews"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/iFamNews","https:\/\/x.com\/iFamNewsEN"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#\/schema\/person\/6a80884ea62cd6f678cb6e329b1d18d0","name":"Tomas Melendo Granados","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/5f9633e77b5867b7d148cb81c262b053e30e6ab681748aa56bfb9c0f6c109328?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/5f9633e77b5867b7d148cb81c262b053e30e6ab681748aa56bfb9c0f6c109328?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Tomas Melendo Granados"},"description":"Tom\u00e1s Melendo Granados was born in Melilla, Spain in 1951. PhD in Science Education and PhD in Philosophy. He carried out undergraduate and graduate studies at Navarra\u2019s University and completed them in Italy and Germany. Until his retirement in September 2021, he was Director of the Study of the Family at Malaga\u2019s University. Now, they are taught by Edufamilia (a nonprofit organization he runs) and can be done completely online. Together with his wife, he was appointed as member of the Pontifical Council for the Family by Pope Benedict XVI. He is father of seven children, grandfather of thirteen grandchildren and, above all, as he defines himself, a husband who is deeply and increasingly in love of his wife.","sameAs":["http:\/\/www.edufamilia.com","https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TomasMelendo","https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/tomasmelendo\/","www.linkedin.com\/in\/tom\u00e1s-melendo-granados-04750a234","https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCU- 7o2eQZJuHNtXB8AMMc1Q?view_as=subscriber"],"url":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/author\/tomas-melendo-granados"}]}},"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209428","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1102"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=209428"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209428\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":209457,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209428\/revisions\/209457"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/208108"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=209428"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=209428"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ifamnews.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=209428"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}