A study conducted last year by Lifeway Research and presented recently collects significant data on the role of men with respect to voluntary termination of pregnancy procedures, whether the abortion was performed by a wife, girlfriend, or partner.
The research was carried out in the United States of America, analyzing the state of mind of these men when the woman told them she was expecting a child. This state of mind ranges from “feeling nervous” for 53% of them, to “scared” for 42%, but also “happy” for 30% and “excited” for 28%.
Regarding the fathers’ behavior with respect to the woman’s decision to have an abortion, 12% of them said they “strongly urged” her to do so, 30% “suggested it,” 19% “suggested not to do it,” 8% “strongly urged her not to do it,” but an incredible 31% said they “gave no opinion.”
In this crowd of mute servants of the “culture of death,” 63% felt that abortion “was their choice.” After all, at a time when abortion is legal and permitted, someone will have to choose whether or not to use it.
The “reasons” given for killing a child in the womb were the usual ones that the abortion advocates flaunt as valid: the couple could not “afford” a child at that time, there were other children in the family, in a number considered “sufficient”, he had to finish his studies, or he did not feel “ready” to be a father, or he did not consider the relationship with that woman a serious thing.
In Italy, a few years ago, the case of Andrea Roncato, cabaret performer and actor, had some media coverage, as he recounted in a book, entitled “I would have wanted you“, recounting the regret he felt for an abortion he resorted to in his youth. During a television interview, to the presenter who asked him if he missed having a child, Roncato replied: “I miss having a child, it was the real mistake of my life. When I was very young I had the chance to become a father, to have a child, but I had an abortion. I have now become extremely anti-abortion.
This is one of the reasons why the “Italian Centri di Aiuto alla Vita”, the operative branches of the “Movement for Life”, which “responds in a concrete way to the needs of women who experience a difficult or unexpected pregnancy”, urge woman considering abortion, when possible, to involve the fathers of the children they are carrying, to bring them with them to meet those who can help the couple not to give up a child. “Every year about 60 thousand women, the vast majority of whom are expecting a child, are assisted in various ways. They could tell dramatic stories – almost all, however, with happy endings – of hopes lost and found, of trust lost and restored. And no mother has ever regretted the choice to give birth to the child she was expecting.”
Surely, by doing so and choosing life, some dads will avoid deep regret as well.